Why we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.





As it’s coming up to the most romantic day of the year, I wanted to just write a post about why Tom and I don’t do Valentines Day.

Most people assume that as we’ve been together almost two years, we would definitely go all out for V-Day and have a stupidly romantic evening together. Absolutely not. I’m not against other people being into it, but I just can’t stand it. It’s so commercialised and just a way for people to make loads of money. I hate how cheesy the gifts are and it just seems ridiculous that for one night of the year, couples feel forced to do something, buy a card and present (that will probably never get used or die within five days) just because there is a date on the calendar that says you should.

The main reason we don’t celebrate it is because we both think that we should do nice, spontaneous things for one another throughout the year, not on any special day. We don’t even have an anniversary date! Most weeks Tom buys me flowers. Not because he feels he has to, but because he knows I love having fresh flowers. The only ones he’s not allowed to buy me are red roses because I detest them. I don’t know why, I just really hate them! The other rule we have is that he’s not allowed to buy them Valentines week because I used to work in retail and I saw how quickly they used to die and just how cliched it is to buy your girlfriend flowers on the 14th February.

Another thing we make sure we do is to spend quality time together at the weekend. I know this seems basic and that most people probably do this anyway, but we have found it is so important. We love our time together. We always have a nice dinner both Saturday and Sunday that is home-cooked and we have made it together, and we usually watch a film. One that I want, one that Tom wants. Last weekend we went for a spa day and then spent the afternoon together on the sofa and it was so nice and relaxing. We have always been super comfortable in each others company and almost two years on, not much has changed. Which is something that is really special. The magic hasn’t faded for us at all.

We always send each other nice messages or leave little notes around the house. That means so much more than a cheesy card. I suppose for me, the main reason we don’t do Valentines Day is because when we have spontaneous nights out/ nice meals, it means much more and we enjoy them so much more. Being in a room full of couples is something I would really find cringy and it’s just not for me! I’m not trying to offend anyone with this, it’s just my opinion, but I thought it would be an alternative post, it’s good to read the other side. I’ve seen so many bloggers make beautiful gifts/ cards for their partners and it’s really love if you choose to do it. We just choose not to.

But, whatever you’re doing this Valentines Day, make it awesome! We’re going for a lasagne at our friends and we are really looking forward to it.

Thanks for reading!

12 Comments Add yours

  1. Ellie says:

    Hey, I’m exactly the same. Me and my boyfriend don’t celebrate Valentines day, why single it out to one day a year?! It’s hard when it’s a ‘societal standard’ and there’s so much pressure to conform. Do what makes you both happy, that’s the main thing! Great read πŸ™‚ x


  2. Go you! Definitely agree. It does feel very forced and pointless. We just laugh instead and count the money we’ve saved πŸ˜›


  3. I love coming across sincere posts like this one. I don’t celebrate Valentine’s day either, so that makes two of us, haha. Thanks for sharing!


  4. Arganise Campbell says:

    You guys are the first that I’ve ever known to not celebrate valentines day. I strongly dislike the holiday however I will accept the gifts and candy, but I do feel like my man should love me the same everyday.


    1. We know it’s unusual for a couple to not really celebrate it but we just think it’s a bit pointless πŸ˜‚πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ


  5. sugisays says:

    So true! Love can’t be defined based on the actions made on one day of the year – it’s a work in progress πŸ’•


  6. piedbypiper says:

    My partner and I don’t celebrate Valentines Day either. We don’t go out of our way to do nothing on the day, kind of like an Anti-Valentines day but we simply don’t really acknowledge the day. No presents or anything. Tonight we’re having his parents over for a meal we’re going to cook together. Not because it’s Feb 14th but because it’s the only night this week we all had free haha. Have a lovely day regardless! Refreshing post.Piper x


  7. foundationsandfairytales says:

    We’ve celebrated Valentine’s Day in the past but that was when I had to do long distance with my partner so it meant more to us then, now that we see each other every day I’d much rather like you have a spontaneous date night another time than sit in a room full of couples who are only out because they feel like they have to be!Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.comxx


  8. I understand your point of view. Nobody has ever given me a valentines gift or card so I hear you loud and clear mama.


  9. I agree with your point of view. I’ve done things for vday with previous relationships but going all out, to me, is silly. But i’m the type who will make someone’s lunch for them and include a note as to why I love them or some silly little memory of us or whatever. I write love notes all the time and leave them under pillows, I buy small gifts through out the year, etc. So spending a ton of money on one day because the calendar says so, seems pretty silly.


  10. Hi, Very Good Article. I really appreciate it. Now you got one regular visitor to your website for new topics. Keep up the Good Work Thanks for always sharing. Nicole Graham


  11. Abbey says:

    Aww such a beautiful post and I do agree with you, everyday is a special day to celebrate that special someone.


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