As 2018 draws to a close, I think most people will be reflecting on what sort of year it has been. Everyone has ups and downs. It’s part of life and unavoidable. But in the last month or so, I have been thinking how quickly the time goes and how you need to make the most of each day.
Some of the battles I have had this year, mentally, have been hard to get through at times. As I’ve gotten older, I have found (ashamedly) it more difficult to deal with certain setbacks. Tom has always been great to have by side and I’m so grateful he’s in my life. Meeting him at uni trumps anything else as I realise that I am happy now. Truly. And that’s what 2018 has been good for. For the first time ever, I’m not dreading having to start a new year all over again. Because all it means now is that I have someone to share new experiences with, set new goals and make fantastic memories.
Tom and I moved into a cottage together this year, situated by the waterfront in a little place called Mersea Island. At first, I abhorred the idea of moving onto the island. I thought it’s so cliquey, incestuous and suffocating. But I have definitely changed my mind. Don’t get me wring, it’s still all those things, however, it’s also so much more.
We had the best summer of our lives this year. Which seems bizarre considering we only went on a 10 day holiday to Mallorca. I say only, we loved our holiday and we bloody well earned it. But the rest of the time was spent working and being on Mersea. But we really cemented a brilliant friendship and that is one of the things I love about living on this island. If you took a glance at our friendship group, we are a bunch of misfits. You would never put us together in a million years. We just have such fun together and can rely on each other for anything. It’s such a comfort knowing you can call on anyone, at any time and they will help you.
One of the best memories from this year was definitely my birthday. I turned 30 and I was actually dreading it. It felt so old and I felt like a failure, like I hadn’t done enough. But, Tom arranged a surprise birthday BBQ over on Ray Island that you have to get to via boat, with all of our friends chipping in. It was the perfect day and so humbling to think they did that for me. I was so touched. We had the best time and I think it will probably become an annual thing.
My favourite memory from this year is definitely the laughter. We have had so many good times, I would be here until 2023 trying to list them all. We’ve been ridiculous, absurd, welcoming and fun. Yeah, that’s my favourite thing from this year – the fun we had. And the friends I’ve made.
2019 is going to be a great year – because nothing is changing. Well, some things might, but only in a positive way. Tom and I are going to Paris at the end of January. It’s on my bucket list and I’m so excited to tick it off! I got my first tattoo this year – a day before my birthday actually as I was scared I hadn’t done enough by the time I was 30 and it was on my bucket list so I took the plunge. It wasn’t that bad either. Wednesday we’re going to look at puppies. I will be beside myself if we get one as I have wanted a dog for so long. They’re great for mental health and will encourage me to do exercise as I can take him on long walks to the beach. We’re also aiming to go to Thailand in September/ October time as it looks amazing! I’m finally getting to where I want to be professionally and personally, and I’m looking forward to writing another post next year on what a fantastic year we had.
So I’m signing off for 2018 now. There’s two bottles of champagne in the fridge and they’re not going to drink themselves.
Happy New Year – may 2019 be healthy and prosperous for you all. X